If you had just gotten into an argument with your spouse or your soul mate then this article is for you. Learning how to apologize in a relationship is an art and you must know the rules in order to keep that relationship strong and healthy.
You must apologize sincerely, admit guilt and present yourself in a light that is credible and believable. Without those qualities your apology makes you come off as a wet noodle. After reading this article you will be aware of the steps involved that you need to take in order to insure that you are taken seriously and that you are serious about the after effects of the most recent spat that you've just had.
You need to apologize sincerely about what you said. Somehow people know when we attempt a half hearted attempt in apologizing. Call it a sixth sense or whatever; the bottom line is that you need to really mean it when you apologize. Being truthful and being responsible for your words and actions can only come from within you. Stand up to your words and take them back because you probably didn't mean them in the first place. Right?
You need to admit that you were wrong and that you were the only person responsible. It's so easy to blame others but if you want to back on track with your relationship you need to accept responsibility and not be insincere. Sure we all make mistakes in life and saying something you didn't mean to say happens to all of us. Admit that fault and that will go a long way in patching up emotional wounds.
The timing and the way you present your apology is important too. You don't want to interrupt the attention during important tasks. Find an appropriate time and place for you to speak and that will go miles in recognizing that you actually mean what you say. No time for jokes now because you probably are in the dog house but if you spruce yourself up and take the time to find the most opportune place to apologize will help convey your message.
Reliving the incident and recalling the words that you said, admitting that you were a quick trigger will help your partner understand that you regret saying it in the first place. Talk about your apology and even impose some sort of penalty of sorts will also go a long ways for your credibility and sincerity in the matter.
Now that you know about the issues surrounding an apology will hopefully make you aware of what you need to do in order to come across sincerely. Don't underestimate the power of body language and the spoken word in a sincere manner to apologize.
If you didn't mean what you said, then say it. If you see that your life is not better off because you said what you said then change it. You know what to do about it and now the rest is up to you.
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