วันพุธที่ 31 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Noodle River In Japan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sP-rviuS0X4&hl=en
the oodle of noodle
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3x9vZmljh0Y&hl=en
วันอังคารที่ 30 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Completely Broke This Year? No - Cost Holiday Ideas!
Sometimes our budget is stretched beyond its limits. I've been there plenty of times. Although I do my best to give my kids a decent holiday, there may not always be money left over for the adults on my list. What do I do in this case? Following are a few of the no-cost holiday ideas I've used over the years. They're always such a big hit I often wonder why I go back to my traditional holiday routines, but old habits die hard.
1. Coupons or IOUs
Buy a small stocking or jewelry gift box from the dollar store and fill it with IOUs.
For instance, some notes to my boyfriend may be a promise to wash his car, clean his bathrooms (they need it, trust me!), do his laundry for a week, bake a batch of cookies, make him a special dinner, or give him a nice back rub. You can throw in some naughty IOUs too; our partner always appreciates those! ;-)
With my friends I may offer to watch their pets or water plants when they go on vacation, bring over some chicken noodle soup and a crossword puzzle book when they're sick, bake a casserole one night so they don't have to cook, or babysit when they want to go out one night.
For an elderly neighbor I offered to run some errands, walk her dog, and remove some unneeded programs and check for viruses on her computer.
*A word of warning here: Don't offer more than you can give. A couple of really nice IOUs will be well-received and quickly used, but won't wear you out in the process as you try to fulfill them all.
2. Send electronic cards
The cost of stamps goes up every year and if you've got ten or twenty people on your list that can add up! Not to mention the cost of the cards themselves. Sending e-cards may seem rather lazy or tacky, but when you're broke it's the only way to wish your loved ones a Merry Christmas without going broker! I love the free e-cards on http://www.Hallmark.com
Be sure to personalize each e-card instead of sending out a mass email. People appreciate a personal note from you letting them know how much you care, and perhaps sharing a warm or funny memory you have of them. Last year I reminded my one daughter how much we all laughed when we went sledding and she toppled over, slid down the hill, and lost her pants on the way!
3. Write an ebook
No, you don't have to be Stephen King or Hemmingway. Anyone can make a nice ebook with little effort and just a few hours' time. You can create an ebook of favorite recipes, quotes, a collection of helpful articles, or whatever else that special someone may be in to. Use free photos from sites such as http://www.FreeRangeStock.com then turn it into a PDF file quickly and easily at http://www.FreePDFConverter.com No, you don't have to turn it into a PDF file, but it looks more professional that way. :) I made an ebook of favorite family recipes for my oldest daughter last year and she loved it.
4. Create a collage
Find some favorite photos you have duplicates of and glue them to a piece of poster board. This no-cost gift may sound a bit cheesy, but everyone loves to see photos of people they care about or pictures that have special memories. I did a collage for my mom one year with photos of all her grandkids and added a funny saying or memory we all shared. I wrote them on small slips of construction paper and glued those below some of the photos. It hung on a wall in her bedroom where she could see it everyday.
5. Offer your services
This one kind of falls in the same area as the IOU suggestion, except you'd offer someone a finished project based on your area of expertise. If you're a mechanic, you can offer to perform an oil change. Are you really good at math or history? Offer to tutor someone who's still in school. I wrote some free articles for friends' websites. My son-in-law took some professional photos for a friend of his. Think about something you're good at and offer your services free-of-charge.
6. What about the Christmas tree?
When you're flat broke, buying an expensive tree that will just die within a week is about the last thing on your list. However, it's part of the holiday tradition. When you have absolutely no money for a tree here are a few ideas.
Go to a Christmas tree lot and ask if you can have some of the branches they've cut off. Tie some branches together with string or twine and make a wreath or bough then decorate with whatever ornaments you have around. No, this isn't a Christmas tree, but it's still festive nonetheless!
Another idea is to decorate a tree or bush that you might have growing in your front or back yard. My oleander tree looked very festive on year!
A large plant could stand in for a Christmas tree if you have one in your home. I've never been that lucky since I tend to kill anything potted.
7. Homemade gifts
Okay, I said these were no-cost ideas and this is kind of stretching it, but if you have craft or baking supplies around the house use them to your advantage. Everyone loves handmade goodies, whether it's a crocheted scarf or a batch of sugar cookies. Whenever I'm broke I go into a crafting mode and start thinking up things I can make for the people on my list. The more people you have to make gifts for, the sooner you need to start or you'll quickly become stressed out. Afghans are NEVER on my list!
8. Start new holiday traditions
Instead of mourning over a lack of money, use your imagination and come up with some new and fun traditions you can share with your family. Sing holiday carols together, string popcorn and hang it on the tree (if you have one this year), make Christmas Eve the night you play board games together, or drive around and look at the decorated houses then come home and have cocoa. Making special memories are what last in our loved ones minds, while expensive gifts are quickly forgotten. I can't remember what I got for Christmas last year, but I do remember how we tried our hand at making vegan tamales! My girls and I had a great time preparing them and they came out pretty good.
Who says Christmas has to be expensive? All it takes is a little ingenuity and you can probably come up with a dozen more no-cost holiday ideas. In the process, you're creating memories that will last a lifetime.
How to Plan a Beijing Food Tour
Do you love Chinese cuisine? If you want to taste the essence of Chinese food, you must go on a Beijing food tour. I have been planning one for long. Last December, I have executed it and have tasted all my favourite Chinese food in Beijing before I went home.
I am Chinese and am knowledgeable of what are the best Chinese foods to eat. Here I want to walk you through my Beijing food tour, so you can have some ideas of how to plan yours.
Set Up A Food List
Many of you might know that Peking duck is the most famous Chinese food in Beijing. Other than this, what Chinese cuisine do you like? Type "best Chinese food in Beijing" into the internet and search. You'll get lots of ideas. Another source is to ask your friends who live in Beijing or who have been to China. Write down the foods that are tempting to you. Here is my food list:
o Peking Duck
o Sichuan Smoked Duck
o Lamb Hot Pot
o Imitated Imperial Meal of the Qing Dynasty
o Dan Dan Noodle
o Specialty Sauce Noodle
o Beijing Dumplings
o Mapo Tofu (spicy beancurd)
Search For Restaurants
Go through a similar process like searching for food. Search for "hot pot restaurant in Beijing" might give you a lot of suggestions. Check travel forums might also help.
Here is my targeted restaurant list:
o King of Duck - Peking Duck
o Dong Lai Shun - Lamp Hot Pot
o Sichuan Restaurant at Prince Gong's Palace - Sichuan Smoked Duck
Your restaurant list might be too long that you don't know which the best is. To make life simple, you might show your food list to hotel concierge and ask them for to suggest good and economic restaurants nearby. It does not need to be the hotel where you stay, any hotel concierge should be able to help.
You don't need to target for five star ones. Restaurants run by local people where local Beijingers do their daily meals could be the best place to have a true Beijing feel. Daojiachang is one recommended by my driver, which I found it outstandingly good in environment, food quality and price.
Getting There
If the place is not nearby, make sure to have the restaurant's Chinese name and address written on a paper and show to taxi drivers. This is important as to avoid misunderstanding and any language communication gap.
Check the Cost of Beverages
Food in Beijing is generally not expensive, but drinks are. Better find out before ordering. At the Beijing duck house, our pot of tea cost us ¥40 which is ridiculously expensive. When we checked for drink prices, we were able to order tea at ¥6 per head with refill, which is far more reasonable.
Beijing restaurants generally do not incur service charge. However some might add 10% to your bill.
Check Opening Hours
This should not be a problem for restaurants in the downtown area. However some restaurants have a break between lunch and dinner. We missed our favourite Sichuan Restaurant at the Prince Gong's Palace, without realizing that it closes daily at 2pm for lunch and re-open at 5pm for dinner.
Add Some Sightseeing Activities to Your Beijing Food Tour
You must do something in between meals in order to add colour to your food tour. The spots I have chosen are Peking University, Laoshe Tea House, Prince Gong's Palace and the Mutianyu Great Wall. Mind the time, so you have enough time to visit your favourite spots without missing any of your favourite food and restaurant.
Visit The Snack Street At Wangfujing
If eating is your main travel objective to Beijing, you must not miss the Snack Street along the Wangfujing Main Street towards Dong Chang'an Street.
The Snack Street is a place where it can make you feel hungry. The whole street is all the time full of people and yummy food. The BBQ chicken/lamb/beef sticks cost only ¥1 to ¥5 per stick. If you want to try new and funny things, pay ¥5 per stick of cocoon, pupa, cicada and ¥15 for a seahorse. You can find almost any kind of Chinese snacks from all over the country here.
Yearnings For Home
Last week gave me the distinct pleasure of focused time with family and friends. Out-of-state travel. The wedding of the babysitter who helped me raise our kids. Tucking our son safely into Plebe Summer at the United States Naval Academy. Reuniting with Nick, who has been away at summer school. Visiting old friends from Kentucky who have relocated to Nashville, and connecting nearly two decades worth of memories with up-to-date goings on in our now separate lives.
I could write a book on the Academy's Induction Day alone. The final hug with our son as a civilian. The formal swearing-in ceremony. Twelve hundred freshly-shaved heads donned in sailor caps sitting quietly in lawn chairs on the expanse of lawn in front of the giant building where important people spoke. That last half- hour together. Watching him get in line with his platoon. And then that final sight-permanently imprinted in my brain-of twelve hundred men and women marching through the arch. Into what may well be the most grueling six weeks of their lives. The pain of that separation. The sullenness of our moods that night. Of lump in throat and flop in stomach.
And then on to D.C. where we witnessed yet another July 4th celebration on the mall. Sitting on blankets underneath the stars and the rain. With soaked bodies and slightly soaked spirits. Trying to energize ourselves with one less kid in tow. And enjoy the fireworks without confessing out loud about how much we missed our sweet Ben.
My husband drove the two remaining kids in our brood back home, while Nick headed south, once again to college for a new round of summer school, and I headed west to visit two cherished friends in Nashville. Graciously both housing me and giving me the grand tour of a city I did not know, their hospitality brought something to me which I needed very much at the moment. Still suffering sharp pangs of homesickness for my son, the plebe, I needed at that moment-but did not consciously realize nor acknowledge it at the time-the warmth of the cocoon of home. Of familiar friends and familiar shared pasts. Of deep-seated memories. Of laughter. Recognized southern accents (something I have not heard much of in these past five years in Connecticut). Of hanging out in jammies over breakfast. Of watching the wedding video of their son, a wedding I regret having had to miss, and crying together over its tenderness. And rejoicing in its promise of a bright future for two terrific newlyweds. Of meeting their new grandchildren. And catching up with their now-grown daughter and her new husband.
And on to the wedding of our dear Hannah. Now twenty-something and movie-star gorgeous. Thin as a noodle and looking more than smashing in her white fitted gown, veiled head and drawn-up hair with perfect make-up revealing none of the t-shirted and blue-jeaned past when she protected my kids while I dated my husband. Eating wedding feast burritos-a Hannah favorite-with her older siblings brought a floodgate of memories, as we noshed on chips and sipped on wine while catching up with every important detail of our lives.
This weekend reinforced the notion of home for me. It helped me realize more than ever that the intergenerational transfer of family ties-and of deep friendships-do not happen by chance. Or by legal transfer of title. Transfer of warmth and love through generations happens by the simple yet thoughtful acts built into the daily rhythms of life which, through years of repetition, hard work and discipline, grow into something powerful.
Not all families survive the marriages of our children. The in-laws sometimes hate the outlaws. The mother-in-laws sometimes buck heads with the daughters or the sons. Not all friendships survive hundreds of miles of geographical separation. Dinner dates are fewer and far between. Celebrations of life's important events are sometimes missed. Catch-up phone calls are delayed. Birthdays are forgotten.
But it is this thing we call home that is the most important thing of all. Not the physical home to be sure. Homes come and homes go. Upholstery fades and the china breaks. But the substance of home remains embedded into our cores in a way that can not easily be forgotten or ignored. It is the smells. The visuals. The colors. The accents.
The hugs. The time spent. The sacrifices to personal issues made. Meals get shared and photos get exchanged. Lives get caught up on.
It is this that sustains us. That allows us to find and follow the joy.
I'm getting ready to take another trip this weekend. This time to see my aging mother. And meet up with my brother and my sister and their kids. To clean out the family home where we all grew up in order to move her into smaller and quieter quarters. One with wheelchair access and a handicapped sign in her own little spot in the parking lot. The circle of life goes on. Intergenerational transfer of love. Of care. Of yet another way to define home.
As you travel this summer to visit family and friends, I hope that you, too, fulfill your yearnings for home. In whatever way you define it.
Godspeed.
Parenting Tips - Caring For a Sick Child
As it turns out, the swine flu has been sort of a non-event-at least so far. But it's early in the season, and all those hardy viruses are still out there just waiting to pounce-especially on your child and all those other coughing, sneezing friends of his seated side-by-side in crowded classrooms.
All the more reason to take preventative measures, making sure your child washes her hands frequently and uses sanitizing gel in between times. Eating well, getting plenty of sleep, gargling with plain water a couple of times a day, and limiting sugar are all effective at warding off colds and the flu, too. A dose of vitamin C every day wouldn't hurt either.
But despite these efforts, the odds are good that some germ or other will still find its way into your child, so be prepared.
It all begins with school. Your son or daughter should already have enlisted a classmate or two to call in case of an absence, so that all missed work is collected and either brought to your house or left on the main office counter for you to pick up at the end of the day. Calling that friend is job #1.
Job #2 is making sure you're sick-child ready on the home front. After all, there's nothing worse than hearing your child call for you in the middle of the night-head hot, in a sweat, and complaining about a sore throat-only to discover that you're out of Tylenol and throat spray.
On-HAND ESSENTIALS:
o Thermometer
o Acetaminophen or ibuprofen
o Aspirin-, alcohol-, and sugar-free throat spray
o Vitamin C
o Menthol cough drops
o Cool mist humidifier
o Saline nose drops or spray
o Honey
o Tea
Keep in mind that the U.S. Food and Drug Administration advises against giving cold and cough medications to children under six, as they can have serious side effects in the very young. Moreover, most cold and flu symptoms dissipate on their own without them. If they don't in a week, call your doctor.
And, in the event that the doctor recommends putting your child on an over-the-counter cold and/or cough remedy, follow the dosing instructions to the letter and use the dropper, dosing cup, or dosing spoon that comes with it-not a teaspoon.
Then take these simple measures to ensure that your child is comfortable and quickly on the mend:
1. Use such pain relievers as acetaminophen and ibuprofen-never aspirin, as it can cause Reye's syndrome in youngsters, a rare but serious disease.
2. Do NOT use ibuprofen in children under six months.
3. Use saline drops/spray to ease nasal congestion.
4. Keep your child well-hydrated by having him drink plenty of liquids, thus helping to thin the mucus.
5. Offer chicken noodle soup and tea with honey-good medicine on both counts.
6. Ease coughing with a hot, steamy shower-or seat her nearby-to loosen nasal and chest congestion.
7. Add moisture to the air with a cool mist humidifier running at night-a natural decongestant-but be sure to clean it often and thoroughly. If not, it will blow fungus, bacteria, and mold into the air.
The rest of the story is that, although initially your sick child will love the idea of missing school, staying in pajamas all day, and watching a bit more television than the usual, boredom is likely brewing.
Head it off by having on hand a new puzzle or two and a few as yet unread books, as well as such items as coloring and activity books, drawing paper, crafts, playing cards, and simple games like Candyland.
Building a fort out of pillows and blankets is always fun, too, and nothing beats cuddling together.
But once your child is feeling up to it, making up that collected missed schoolwork must be a priority. See that it all gets done; otherwise he'll fall way behind his classmates and never really catch up. That's when times really get tough.
51 things i begin about the house
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8gv-yc2vp_I&hl=en
วันจันทร์ที่ 29 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
crazy korean kid dedicates a ball to hashbrowns
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kn-I-1DJY_I&hl=en
The X-Files In The Haunted House Of Kid Robot
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A9Sps2QpMGM&hl=en
วันอาทิตย์ที่ 28 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Munich Hotels - Find the Perfect Hotel Location
There are hundreds of Munich hotels to choose from and they are scattered all over the city centre, in the suburbs and near the airport. Here, we take a closer look at some of the most popular hotel locations in the city and what they have to offer.
Munich hotels in Altstadt
The 'Alstadt' is Munich's heartbeat - the very centre of the city and translates as 'Old Town'. It is bounded by the innermost ring road in the city known as the 'Altstadtring'. Parts of the old city walls also define the area and is most recognisable at Stachus where you can see the old city gates.
The Alstadt is the tourist hub of the city with many of the city's beautiful squares and shopping zones located here such as Karlsplatz and Marienplatz - two of the city's most famous squares. The Marienplatz Square is the city's focal point and is home to some top attractions like the Mariensaule Column, the New Town Hall, the Old Town Hall and the Fish Fountain.
There are lots of Munich hotels located in the Alstadt district, so book one of these if you want to be in the thick of all the action, with attractions, shops and nightlife just steps from your hotel door.
Munich hotels in Schwabing
If you're coming to Munich and nightlife is high on your travel itinerary, then you may consider booking a Munich hotel in the Schwabing district. It can be found north of the city centre and is renowned for its bohemian, artsy and laid-back atmosphere. Tourists and locals flock here to enjoy its wide variety of restaurants, cafes, bars and some of the most beautiful beer gardens (many situated in the park!). There's also a wide variety of disco bars and clubs to choose from and the area is also popular for concerts.
Englischer Garten is also located in this district. It's the city's public park and is about twice the size of New York's Central Park. It is definitely worth exploring it and a good way to do so is hire a bike.
There are a good variety of Munich hotels located in the Schwabing district
Munich hotels in Haidhausen
If you cross the River Isar and go east of the Old Town you'll enter the Haidhausen district. It's mainly a residential district but it's also the location of the legendary 'Kultfabrik' which is one of the best party districts in Europe! It used to be a large noodle factory but is now home to an incredible maze of 30-40 bars and clubs!
With so much nightlife to be enjoyed in this area, there's plenty of hotels for you to stay at.
Hotels near Messe Munich
Munich is a one of the top destinations in Europe for trade fairs. It has upto 40 major trade fairs a year attracting over 2 million visitors from all over the globe. It can be found approx 10 km east of the city centre just off the Autobahn 94. There are lots of Munich hotels just minutes from Messe Munich. Many are business friendly while many are family friendly and perfect if you want to be apart from the hustle and bustle of the city centre.
Munich hotels near Hauptbahnhof
The Hauptbahnof is Munich's main railway station and one of the largest train stations in all of Germany. It serves long distance trains from other European destinations like Prague and Budapest as well as destinations in Austria, Switzerland, Italy and France.
Regional trains arrive here from all over Germany and local traffic in the form of the U-Bahn and S-Bahn.
If you're arriving and departing from Munich by train then you may consider getting a hotel close to the Haupbahnof. There are Munich hotels literally across the street from the station while others can be found in the surrounding streets.
The good thing about staying here is that you're also within walking distance of the Old Town and Karlsplatz. The city's museum district to the north is also not far away by foot.
Munich Hotels near the Airport
Franz Josef Strauss International Airport lies 28km north east of the city centre and is the 2nd biggest airport in Germany. It is well connected to the city centre via the S-Bahn but there are also plenty of Munich hotels located here if you want to get a good nights rest before an early flight.
Now have you decided which part of the city you would like to stay in? Next is to decide your budget. There are hotels in Munich to suit every pocket from cheap hotels in Munich like 1 star hotels to plush 5 star hotels. You can book anything from a pet-friendly hotel to a spa hotel or a business hotel to a boutique hotel.
The price you pay will also depend on what time of the year you visit Munich. If you come during a trade fair you may find that hotel prices are significantly dearer while if you decide to come for the world-renowned Ocktoberfest you could be paying ridiculously high prices for your hotel room. To avoid this, you need to book your hotel room at least 3 months in advance.
Munich Hotels - Find the Perfect Hotel Location
There are hundreds of Munich hotels to choose from and they are scattered all over the city centre, in the suburbs and near the airport. Here, we take a closer look at some of the most popular hotel locations in the city and what they have to offer.
Munich hotels in Altstadt
The 'Alstadt' is Munich's heartbeat - the very centre of the city and translates as 'Old Town'. It is bounded by the innermost ring road in the city known as the 'Altstadtring'. Parts of the old city walls also define the area and is most recognisable at Stachus where you can see the old city gates.
The Alstadt is the tourist hub of the city with many of the city's beautiful squares and shopping zones located here such as Karlsplatz and Marienplatz - two of the city's most famous squares. The Marienplatz Square is the city's focal point and is home to some top attractions like the Mariensaule Column, the New Town Hall, the Old Town Hall and the Fish Fountain.
There are lots of Munich hotels located in the Alstadt district, so book one of these if you want to be in the thick of all the action, with attractions, shops and nightlife just steps from your hotel door.
Munich hotels in Schwabing
If you're coming to Munich and nightlife is high on your travel itinerary, then you may consider booking a Munich hotel in the Schwabing district. It can be found north of the city centre and is renowned for its bohemian, artsy and laid-back atmosphere. Tourists and locals flock here to enjoy its wide variety of restaurants, cafes, bars and some of the most beautiful beer gardens (many situated in the park!). There's also a wide variety of disco bars and clubs to choose from and the area is also popular for concerts.
Englischer Garten is also located in this district. It's the city's public park and is about twice the size of New York's Central Park. It is definitely worth exploring it and a good way to do so is hire a bike.
There are a good variety of Munich hotels located in the Schwabing district
Munich hotels in Haidhausen
If you cross the River Isar and go east of the Old Town you'll enter the Haidhausen district. It's mainly a residential district but it's also the location of the legendary 'Kultfabrik' which is one of the best party districts in Europe! It used to be a large noodle factory but is now home to an incredible maze of 30-40 bars and clubs!
With so much nightlife to be enjoyed in this area, there's plenty of hotels for you to stay at.
Hotels near Messe Munich
Munich is a one of the top destinations in Europe for trade fairs. It has upto 40 major trade fairs a year attracting over 2 million visitors from all over the globe. It can be found approx 10 km east of the city centre just off the Autobahn 94. There are lots of Munich hotels just minutes from Messe Munich. Many are business friendly while many are family friendly and perfect if you want to be apart from the hustle and bustle of the city centre.
Munich hotels near Hauptbahnhof
The Hauptbahnof is Munich's main railway station and one of the largest train stations in all of Germany. It serves long distance trains from other European destinations like Prague and Budapest as well as destinations in Austria, Switzerland, Italy and France.
Regional trains arrive here from all over Germany and local traffic in the form of the U-Bahn and S-Bahn.
If you're arriving and departing from Munich by train then you may consider getting a hotel close to the Haupbahnof. There are Munich hotels literally across the street from the station while others can be found in the surrounding streets.
The good thing about staying here is that you're also within walking distance of the Old Town and Karlsplatz. The city's museum district to the north is also not far away by foot.
Munich Hotels near the Airport
Franz Josef Strauss International Airport lies 28km north east of the city centre and is the 2nd biggest airport in Germany. It is well connected to the city centre via the S-Bahn but there are also plenty of Munich hotels located here if you want to get a good nights rest before an early flight.
Now have you decided which part of the city you would like to stay in? Next is to decide your budget. There are hotels in Munich to suit every pocket from cheap hotels in Munich like 1 star hotels to plush 5 star hotels. You can book anything from a pet-friendly hotel to a spa hotel or a business hotel to a boutique hotel.
The price you pay will also depend on what time of the year you visit Munich. If you come during a trade fair you may find that hotel prices are significantly dearer while if you decide to come for the world-renowned Ocktoberfest you could be paying ridiculously high prices for your hotel room. To avoid this, you need to book your hotel room at least 3 months in advance.
วันเสาร์ที่ 27 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Chicken Noodle Kick
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5D6rTNL4lPg&hl=en
Noodle - Jiggin & Poppin *THE RE-DO*
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZaKDfGG0rB4&hl=en
Practical Things to Say and Do When Someone Dies
Keep it Simple
Oh no, a friend I know just died. My heart is on the floor. Tears sting my eyes. What can I do? What can I say? How can I help? The death of a friend or relative puts the brakes on to our busy world. We have an urgent need to "DO SOMETHING----ANYTHING!" We find ourselves wringing our hand, afraid we might cause more hurt. Not knowing how to show our love and concern, we may opt for doing nothing rather than "intruding on their grief." I'd like to share something important with you. Survivors tell me it helps so much to have others reach out to them. Most of them are very glad you cared enough to try.
For over twenty one years, I listened to people share their hurts and frustrations as they journey through the mourning process. I volunteered with Fox Valley Hospice for five years and supported bereaved families as the Bereavement Care Director at Conley Funeral Home in Elburn, Illinois. I looked for ways to help them concretely express their grief. When I followed up on them at regular intervals in the year following the death, the bereaved told me the BEST thing a person can do for someone they care about is simply: BE THERE---period! You don't have to say or do a thing.
Survivors tell me over and over how a hug or heartfelt handshake is remembered more than any words. Even though we know we don't really need to say anything, we still would feel more comfortable if we had a thought or two in our back pocket-just in case. From my reading and experience with "those who have been there" I compiled a list of helpful thoughts. You can also write words similar to these on a card going off in the mail. The thoughts are short and simple. Survivors have so much to think about that many times it is difficult for them to be aware of what is happening around them. It is best to keep comments brief. At the end of the article, there is a list of hints on what not to say. Survivors shared with me that hearing these things from those who came to comfort can actually cause more hurt and confusion. Helping people is one of the things life is all about. So go to your friend with confidence, knowing that your presence will bring comfort, even if your words are not remembered.
WHAT TO SAY
The best advice I ever received when trying to think of something to say when there really wasn't anything to say was, "Simply say what you are feeling." Try to put into words the pain and loss you are feeling your self rather than assuming what the other person is feeling. Let the survivor express his thoughts and feelings to you first. This gives him a sense that you are really listening and trying to understand. After you listen you will have a better understanding of how to respond. The following suggestions can be put in your own words.
o What a tragedy this is for you and your family.
o I heard about what happened and just had to come
o I hate it that this had to happen.
o How terribly hard this must be for all of you.
o I feel so bad about all the suffering (Name) had to go through.
o I was just shocked when I heard the news.
o I can't imagine what you are going through.
o My heart hurts for all of you.
o Tears came to my eyes when I read the obituary.
o I feel just terrible about what happened.
o What an awful loss to our community.
o There's a big hole now in my life.
o The world will never be the same without (Name).
o (Name) had such a great smile, personality etc. I will really miss him/her.
o I enjoyed working together with (Name). He always made the tasks easier, more fun etc.
o (Name) had such a wonderful way of making everyone he met feel special.
o I'm going to miss (Name) so much.
o I remember when...(happy memory here)
WHAT TO DO
Nature provides a wonderful, natural "tool" to help the bereaved get through the first hours and days after the death of someone they love. It's called shock. When our friends are in shock, they find it difficult to think and feel. The day to day necessities of life are difficult to handle. When you are looking for ways to help your friend, be practical. The following list will need to be adapted according to the friendship you have established with the family. You will need to use your own thoughtful discernment regarding the appropriateness of these suggestions.
WHEN YOU FIRST HEAR
Determine whether the family would appreciate a call from you at this time or just a thoughtful little note tucked in their door saying how much the family is in your thoughts since you heard the news. In the note, you can offer several suggestions for helping the family our, such as:
o Washing the cars inside and out.
o Answering the phone.
o Polishing shoes
o Keeping track of children, driving them to lessons etc.
o Gathering information, (flight plans etc.)
o Picking up relatives from the airport
o Grocery shopping or other errands
o Caring for pets
o Bringing over snacks and/or a meal
o Staying at the home to receive gifts of food and/or flowers, recording who they are from
PREPARING FOR VISITATION
GIFTS
o Rather than sending cut flowers to the funeral home, why not send a plant that can be replanted outside to your friends' home?
o Choose a picture frame, figurine or piece of jewelry in memory of the loved one to give to your friend.
o Prisms that make rainbows throughout the room when the sun shines make a lasting gift of hope and beauty.
o Monetary gifts made to the designated memorial funds are greatly appreciated.
o Make up "quiet bags" for the young children. At visitations kids don't have much to do. They don't enjoy talking with relatives. You will be a hero to them and their parents if you provide a little relief. Buy a few inexpensive quiet toys for them to play with during those long hours. (Pad of paper and pencil, a small stuffed animal to hold for comfort, magnetic games or quiet contained puzzles, white boards.
o Make a memory book of blank pages that friends and family can fill in for a valued keep-sake. Ask people you see at visitation or at the luncheon afterwards to write their thoughts and memories. Make a pretty cover for it or use a fun photograph.
o Make a photo album of photos of you and your friend. Everyone appreciates photos of their loved ones.
SERVICES TO OFFER
o Offer to "house sit" during the visitation hours or the funeral where you can answer the phone and door. Keep good messages.
o Offer to coordinate the luncheon.
o Offer to clean up after the luncheon.
o Offer to sit with small children during the funeral at the funeral.
ATTENDING THE VISITATION
o Attend the visitation and offer a warm handshake or a hug.
o Bring a note with special memories and/or attributes of the person who died.
o Don't be afraid to show your own tears. They show the survivors that you care too. Their loved one did not live in vain.
THE FUNERAL OR MEMORIAL SERVICE
o When you help out by taking food, be sure to put your name and phone number on the container. Better yet, send it in a disposable container. (When preparing food, it would be especially thoughtful to consider any of the survivors who may be on a special diet). Also when you prepare food, choose something that will be especially comforting to eat like a hot noodle or potato dish.
o Offer to return food containers to their owners after the luncheon.
o Offer to bring the paper and plastic products for the luncheon after the funeral.
o Offer to bring more chairs if needed.
WHAT NOT TO SAY
When someone dies, the mourners are often confused and hurt. They are experiencing a variety of feelings which make them feel especially vulnerable. It is best to not offer any explanations about the death, assume how they are feeling or even encourage them to look on the bright side. Let them take the lead with these thoughts. What they want most is to be accepted and given the right to express their thoughts and concerns without judgment. In time mourners can usually see past insensitive remarks to the heart behind the words. If you have said any of the following in the past, forgive yourself, knowing that you did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. Your intentions came from a heart full of love. That's what really counts. Vow to never say them again.
o It must have been his time. (most survivors are not ready to hear this yet-they are still wanting the person to be alive and with them)
o She lived a good life. (this does not give the survivor the room to have different feelings)
o It must have been God's will. (This comment can cause anger toward God, pointing the blame and causing the survivor to feel guilty for being angry at a loving God.)
o If he wouldn't have been out that late, he would be alive right now. (This comment is blaming the victim and not bringing comfort to the survivors.)
o She wouldn't want you to be so sad. (People hurt when someone dies because they loved him/her. It's natural and healthy to feel sad. None of us like to be told what or what not to feel.)
o When a child dies please don't say, "You're young, you can have more children." (This comment minimizes the death. No child can ever take the place of another.)
o I know just how you feel, my dog died last month. (Most parents will in no way relate to that.)
o At least you have other children. (Again, there's a hole that no child can replace.)
o It's probably for the best. (A survivor is so overwhelmed with feelings of grief, that his comment is usually misunderstood.)
o God must have wanted a baby angel. (Parents cannot understand how God would want their child more than they do)
o I know just how you feel. (Even though you may have had a similar experience, you are not this person. There are multiple factors influencing each individual circumstance and therefore you cannot know how someone else is feeling.)
o Just keep looking for the positives. (A griever usually cannot be at this point in his mourning for many weeks following the death.)
o You just sit there and let me take care of everything. (Making decisions is helpful in the recovery process of grief-let survivors make as many as they can.) NOTE: While giving someone valium may sound like a good idea at the time, the drug or one like it can dull feelings that will still need to be dealt with eventually. It is important to a person's well being that they are active participants with as sharp a mind as possible.
DON'T SAY THE FOLLOWING TO CHILDREN
o Look at how peacefully she is sleeping. (Children take most things literally and may have problems sleeping because they believe that they may die in their sleep.)
o You must take care of your mom/dad now. (This is too much pressure on a child-they need to be themselves and mourn in their own way. No one else can take the place of another. A family needs to work together repairing the broken circle. In healthy grief, families need each other and support one another.
o No, you shouldn't see (Name). It's better to remember them the way they were. (This may be true for some children, but for others they need to see for themselves that the person is really dead otherwise they may continually look for them to come home.
o In the case of suicide, NEVER impose your beliefs or even suggest where their loved ones' soul has gone even if you share the same faith. Suicide is cruel. Support your friend as if he has a broken limb. Don't offer any opinions.
SOME CONCLUDING REMARKS
Unfortunately, grief does not go away in a few weeks. Survivors eventually learn to integrate their loss but find there are special times that trigger the sadness. Some of those times are predictable like holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. The days surrounding the one year anniversary of the death can be especially difficult. Other times are not so predictable; the first signs of spring or the smell of fall or even seeing someone in a crowd that resembles the loved one can bring on an overwhelming sadness. Being aware of these times especially the first year and possibly the second can be good times for some special attention from you. A phone call, card, flowers or visit are greatly appreciated by the griever.
If your friend is finding it hard to cope with daily activities and is experiencing extreme sleeping and eating patterns over a long period of time could mean that they could benefit from talking with a clergy person or professional counselor who understands the grieving process. Some people find that support groups like, Make Today Count, Survivors of Suicide or Compassionate Friends are especially helpful.
May you go in peace and find that you are a better person because you took the time, energy and courage to reach out.
วันศุกร์ที่ 26 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Practical Things to Say and Do When Someone Dies
Keep it Simple
Oh no, a friend I know just died. My heart is on the floor. Tears sting my eyes. What can I do? What can I say? How can I help? The death of a friend or relative puts the brakes on to our busy world. We have an urgent need to "DO SOMETHING----ANYTHING!" We find ourselves wringing our hand, afraid we might cause more hurt. Not knowing how to show our love and concern, we may opt for doing nothing rather than "intruding on their grief." I'd like to share something important with you. Survivors tell me it helps so much to have others reach out to them. Most of them are very glad you cared enough to try.
For over twenty one years, I listened to people share their hurts and frustrations as they journey through the mourning process. I volunteered with Fox Valley Hospice for five years and supported bereaved families as the Bereavement Care Director at Conley Funeral Home in Elburn, Illinois. I looked for ways to help them concretely express their grief. When I followed up on them at regular intervals in the year following the death, the bereaved told me the BEST thing a person can do for someone they care about is simply: BE THERE---period! You don't have to say or do a thing.
Survivors tell me over and over how a hug or heartfelt handshake is remembered more than any words. Even though we know we don't really need to say anything, we still would feel more comfortable if we had a thought or two in our back pocket-just in case. From my reading and experience with "those who have been there" I compiled a list of helpful thoughts. You can also write words similar to these on a card going off in the mail. The thoughts are short and simple. Survivors have so much to think about that many times it is difficult for them to be aware of what is happening around them. It is best to keep comments brief. At the end of the article, there is a list of hints on what not to say. Survivors shared with me that hearing these things from those who came to comfort can actually cause more hurt and confusion. Helping people is one of the things life is all about. So go to your friend with confidence, knowing that your presence will bring comfort, even if your words are not remembered.
WHAT TO SAY
The best advice I ever received when trying to think of something to say when there really wasn't anything to say was, "Simply say what you are feeling." Try to put into words the pain and loss you are feeling your self rather than assuming what the other person is feeling. Let the survivor express his thoughts and feelings to you first. This gives him a sense that you are really listening and trying to understand. After you listen you will have a better understanding of how to respond. The following suggestions can be put in your own words.
o What a tragedy this is for you and your family.
o I heard about what happened and just had to come
o I hate it that this had to happen.
o How terribly hard this must be for all of you.
o I feel so bad about all the suffering (Name) had to go through.
o I was just shocked when I heard the news.
o I can't imagine what you are going through.
o My heart hurts for all of you.
o Tears came to my eyes when I read the obituary.
o I feel just terrible about what happened.
o What an awful loss to our community.
o There's a big hole now in my life.
o The world will never be the same without (Name).
o (Name) had such a great smile, personality etc. I will really miss him/her.
o I enjoyed working together with (Name). He always made the tasks easier, more fun etc.
o (Name) had such a wonderful way of making everyone he met feel special.
o I'm going to miss (Name) so much.
o I remember when...(happy memory here)
WHAT TO DO
Nature provides a wonderful, natural "tool" to help the bereaved get through the first hours and days after the death of someone they love. It's called shock. When our friends are in shock, they find it difficult to think and feel. The day to day necessities of life are difficult to handle. When you are looking for ways to help your friend, be practical. The following list will need to be adapted according to the friendship you have established with the family. You will need to use your own thoughtful discernment regarding the appropriateness of these suggestions.
WHEN YOU FIRST HEAR
Determine whether the family would appreciate a call from you at this time or just a thoughtful little note tucked in their door saying how much the family is in your thoughts since you heard the news. In the note, you can offer several suggestions for helping the family our, such as:
o Washing the cars inside and out.
o Answering the phone.
o Polishing shoes
o Keeping track of children, driving them to lessons etc.
o Gathering information, (flight plans etc.)
o Picking up relatives from the airport
o Grocery shopping or other errands
o Caring for pets
o Bringing over snacks and/or a meal
o Staying at the home to receive gifts of food and/or flowers, recording who they are from
PREPARING FOR VISITATION
GIFTS
o Rather than sending cut flowers to the funeral home, why not send a plant that can be replanted outside to your friends' home?
o Choose a picture frame, figurine or piece of jewelry in memory of the loved one to give to your friend.
o Prisms that make rainbows throughout the room when the sun shines make a lasting gift of hope and beauty.
o Monetary gifts made to the designated memorial funds are greatly appreciated.
o Make up "quiet bags" for the young children. At visitations kids don't have much to do. They don't enjoy talking with relatives. You will be a hero to them and their parents if you provide a little relief. Buy a few inexpensive quiet toys for them to play with during those long hours. (Pad of paper and pencil, a small stuffed animal to hold for comfort, magnetic games or quiet contained puzzles, white boards.
o Make a memory book of blank pages that friends and family can fill in for a valued keep-sake. Ask people you see at visitation or at the luncheon afterwards to write their thoughts and memories. Make a pretty cover for it or use a fun photograph.
o Make a photo album of photos of you and your friend. Everyone appreciates photos of their loved ones.
SERVICES TO OFFER
o Offer to "house sit" during the visitation hours or the funeral where you can answer the phone and door. Keep good messages.
o Offer to coordinate the luncheon.
o Offer to clean up after the luncheon.
o Offer to sit with small children during the funeral at the funeral.
ATTENDING THE VISITATION
o Attend the visitation and offer a warm handshake or a hug.
o Bring a note with special memories and/or attributes of the person who died.
o Don't be afraid to show your own tears. They show the survivors that you care too. Their loved one did not live in vain.
THE FUNERAL OR MEMORIAL SERVICE
o When you help out by taking food, be sure to put your name and phone number on the container. Better yet, send it in a disposable container. (When preparing food, it would be especially thoughtful to consider any of the survivors who may be on a special diet). Also when you prepare food, choose something that will be especially comforting to eat like a hot noodle or potato dish.
o Offer to return food containers to their owners after the luncheon.
o Offer to bring the paper and plastic products for the luncheon after the funeral.
o Offer to bring more chairs if needed.
WHAT NOT TO SAY
When someone dies, the mourners are often confused and hurt. They are experiencing a variety of feelings which make them feel especially vulnerable. It is best to not offer any explanations about the death, assume how they are feeling or even encourage them to look on the bright side. Let them take the lead with these thoughts. What they want most is to be accepted and given the right to express their thoughts and concerns without judgment. In time mourners can usually see past insensitive remarks to the heart behind the words. If you have said any of the following in the past, forgive yourself, knowing that you did the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time. Your intentions came from a heart full of love. That's what really counts. Vow to never say them again.
o It must have been his time. (most survivors are not ready to hear this yet-they are still wanting the person to be alive and with them)
o She lived a good life. (this does not give the survivor the room to have different feelings)
o It must have been God's will. (This comment can cause anger toward God, pointing the blame and causing the survivor to feel guilty for being angry at a loving God.)
o If he wouldn't have been out that late, he would be alive right now. (This comment is blaming the victim and not bringing comfort to the survivors.)
o She wouldn't want you to be so sad. (People hurt when someone dies because they loved him/her. It's natural and healthy to feel sad. None of us like to be told what or what not to feel.)
o When a child dies please don't say, "You're young, you can have more children." (This comment minimizes the death. No child can ever take the place of another.)
o I know just how you feel, my dog died last month. (Most parents will in no way relate to that.)
o At least you have other children. (Again, there's a hole that no child can replace.)
o It's probably for the best. (A survivor is so overwhelmed with feelings of grief, that his comment is usually misunderstood.)
o God must have wanted a baby angel. (Parents cannot understand how God would want their child more than they do)
o I know just how you feel. (Even though you may have had a similar experience, you are not this person. There are multiple factors influencing each individual circumstance and therefore you cannot know how someone else is feeling.)
o Just keep looking for the positives. (A griever usually cannot be at this point in his mourning for many weeks following the death.)
o You just sit there and let me take care of everything. (Making decisions is helpful in the recovery process of grief-let survivors make as many as they can.) NOTE: While giving someone valium may sound like a good idea at the time, the drug or one like it can dull feelings that will still need to be dealt with eventually. It is important to a person's well being that they are active participants with as sharp a mind as possible.
DON'T SAY THE FOLLOWING TO CHILDREN
o Look at how peacefully she is sleeping. (Children take most things literally and may have problems sleeping because they believe that they may die in their sleep.)
o You must take care of your mom/dad now. (This is too much pressure on a child-they need to be themselves and mourn in their own way. No one else can take the place of another. A family needs to work together repairing the broken circle. In healthy grief, families need each other and support one another.
o No, you shouldn't see (Name). It's better to remember them the way they were. (This may be true for some children, but for others they need to see for themselves that the person is really dead otherwise they may continually look for them to come home.
o In the case of suicide, NEVER impose your beliefs or even suggest where their loved ones' soul has gone even if you share the same faith. Suicide is cruel. Support your friend as if he has a broken limb. Don't offer any opinions.
SOME CONCLUDING REMARKS
Unfortunately, grief does not go away in a few weeks. Survivors eventually learn to integrate their loss but find there are special times that trigger the sadness. Some of those times are predictable like holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. The days surrounding the one year anniversary of the death can be especially difficult. Other times are not so predictable; the first signs of spring or the smell of fall or even seeing someone in a crowd that resembles the loved one can bring on an overwhelming sadness. Being aware of these times especially the first year and possibly the second can be good times for some special attention from you. A phone call, card, flowers or visit are greatly appreciated by the griever.
If your friend is finding it hard to cope with daily activities and is experiencing extreme sleeping and eating patterns over a long period of time could mean that they could benefit from talking with a clergy person or professional counselor who understands the grieving process. Some people find that support groups like, Make Today Count, Survivors of Suicide or Compassionate Friends are especially helpful.
May you go in peace and find that you are a better person because you took the time, energy and courage to reach out.
《三槍拍案驚奇》 (A Simple Noodle Story) Trailer 預告片HQ
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8u_Ka3baUUw&hl=en
วันพฤหัสบดีที่ 25 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
murdocxnoodle vs. 2dxnoodle
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=05uA1zTrYn4&hl=en
วันพุธที่ 24 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Gorillaz - 19 2000 HD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5-iJcKTC2eo&hl=en
TJ blame annular with drums at practice
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v46LZJOstrE&hl=en
วันอังคารที่ 23 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Chicken, Corn & Potato Chowder With Green Chiles & Cheddar Cheese
Damn, I'm a good wife! A few days ago, my husband dropped a few hints - Hiroshima-sized ones - that he would be tickled if a bowl of chicken and corn chowder dropped from the heavens into his eager hands. Ask and you shall receive. Okay, so maybe I felt the need to make up for the frequent accumulation of papers that I have squirreled away in various parts of our house. Not cool when your husband is neat as a pin on a clutter-phobe's pincushion. Or perhaps it's the guilt over smashing his beloved Red Tail Ale pint glass. Whatever it was, my infractions of the "live in harmony" law were pardoned after the first slurp of this creamy, aromatic soup.
This chowder is based off of a recipe from Cooking Light Magazine. Even after considerable changes, I believe we can still call it light. As my husband is rather fond of southwestern flavors and a little heat, I added a can of chiles and a pinch of cayenne pepper. The original recipe called for 2% milk. However, since there was none to be found in my fridge, I substituted skim milk. To make up for the richness lacking in skim milk, I added a can corn to accompany the whole kernels. Oh yeah, and I added an extra strip of bacon. No excuses required for that. The robust aroma gave way to an intensely satisfying soup that indulged my husband's craving and warmed us to our toes.
First, bacon is cooked in a large saucepan. Once crisp, the bacon is set aside for later garnishing. Bite-sized pieces of chicken and a mixture of vegetables, including onion, red bell pepper, and garlic are sauteed. Next, a can of green chiles is added for a boost of flavor and a little heat. Once chicken broth and potatoes are included, the soup simmers for about 20 minutes before the corn is stirred in.
To aid in the transition from soup to chowder, a slurry of milk and flour is added to the pot and the mixture is simmered for an additional 15 minutes. Right before serving, a handful of sharp Cheddar cheese and a pinch of cayenne pepper are thrown in to round of the flavors. The chowder is then ladled into bowls and garnished with chopped scallions, grated Cheddar cheese, and crumbled bacon. If desired, break some tortilla chips over each portion of soup.
What an easy, satisfying meal for any night of the week.
วันจันทร์ที่ 22 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Winter Soup Recipe For Busy Working People
There are many not healthy body reaction syndrome can be found in modern working live level people, example syndrome like always felt like the eye-sight is getting worse and with some dizzy effect, easy to get tired very quick, less concentration, easily felt cold on feet and palm and always sleepy. These problems are potentially due to lack of exercise and no healthy diet.
In Winter, according to Chinese medicine doctor, winter is the best time to refine and tune your body with eating some Chinese herb soups and meals and its serve two purposes either nourishing and repair the injured parts inside the body. As in Winter season is where the body really rest.
Here is an easy and very practical recipe for people who always felt energy less, tiring, sleepy, not enough stamina - Red Ginseng Soup or Drink
Ingredients:
4 gram of Red Ginseng, 2 pieces of red dates, 2 pieces of dried longang, 2 cube cane sugar, and a rice bowl of water.
Method:
a. Cut the Red Ginseng into small thin slices
b. Rinse red dates and dried longan
c. Remove seed from red dates and slightly mashed it.
d. Put all ingredient into stewing pot, add the water and cane sugar and stew for 90 minutes.
Or you can use boiling hot water to soak all ingredient for 60 minutes in a good thermal bottle before drink it.
Some advise while taking ginseng, it is not recommended and avoid taking any carrot as it will makes ginseng ineffective.
Exercise more to maintain healthy life style.
วันพฤหัสบดีที่ 18 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Gorillaz Dirty Harry HD
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6KaOfulIZLw&hl=en
วันพุธที่ 17 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Top Secret of Hong Kong Food香港食物祕奧
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKV4jlduVnk&hl=en
วันอังคารที่ 16 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
The In's And Out's To Apologize In A Relationship
If you had just gotten into an argument with your spouse or your soul mate then this article is for you. Learning how to apologize in a relationship is an art and you must know the rules in order to keep that relationship strong and healthy.
You must apologize sincerely, admit guilt and present yourself in a light that is credible and believable. Without those qualities your apology makes you come off as a wet noodle. After reading this article you will be aware of the steps involved that you need to take in order to insure that you are taken seriously and that you are serious about the after effects of the most recent spat that you've just had.
You need to apologize sincerely about what you said. Somehow people know when we attempt a half hearted attempt in apologizing. Call it a sixth sense or whatever; the bottom line is that you need to really mean it when you apologize. Being truthful and being responsible for your words and actions can only come from within you. Stand up to your words and take them back because you probably didn't mean them in the first place. Right?
You need to admit that you were wrong and that you were the only person responsible. It's so easy to blame others but if you want to back on track with your relationship you need to accept responsibility and not be insincere. Sure we all make mistakes in life and saying something you didn't mean to say happens to all of us. Admit that fault and that will go a long way in patching up emotional wounds.
The timing and the way you present your apology is important too. You don't want to interrupt the attention during important tasks. Find an appropriate time and place for you to speak and that will go miles in recognizing that you actually mean what you say. No time for jokes now because you probably are in the dog house but if you spruce yourself up and take the time to find the most opportune place to apologize will help convey your message.
Reliving the incident and recalling the words that you said, admitting that you were a quick trigger will help your partner understand that you regret saying it in the first place. Talk about your apology and even impose some sort of penalty of sorts will also go a long ways for your credibility and sincerity in the matter.
Now that you know about the issues surrounding an apology will hopefully make you aware of what you need to do in order to come across sincerely. Don't underestimate the power of body language and the spoken word in a sincere manner to apologize.
If you didn't mean what you said, then say it. If you see that your life is not better off because you said what you said then change it. You know what to do about it and now the rest is up to you.
วันจันทร์ที่ 15 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
วันอาทิตย์ที่ 14 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Thailand Cuisine
If you are looking for an internationally famous food then it is none other than Thai Food. The Thai cuisine is very famous worldwide as it constitutes amazing blend of aquatic animals, plants and herbs. One can find all the five elementary tastes: sweet, spice, bitter, salty and sour. While tasting the popular Thai dishes you will find lime juice, garlic, chilies, lemon grass and fish sauce as common ingredients. Basically the distinctiveness of Thailand Food depends upon, by whom it is cooked and for what occasion it is cooked. One can see a little influence of Chinese cuisine on Thailand Food.
Rice is one of the principle food ingredients that is omnipresent in all kind of Thailand Food. The jasmine rice and sticky rice are the kinds of the rice taken by Thai people. The fresh herbs are used while preparing Thailand Food as it increase the quality of the aroma of the food. A single time meal consists of a hot cup of soup, a curry dish with condiments, a dip accompanying fish and vegetables. Also you can add some spice salad to the meals to make it heavier. The balance of spicy taste is maintained by the cooks while serving the spicy and non-spicy dishes. For desserts you can enjoy the Thai sweets and fresh fruits.
The tools utilized normally by Thai people to have their meals are spoons and forks. Thailand has maximum number of Buddhist population, so one can see the impact of Buddhism in Thailand Food.
The Thailand Food is served with roasted duck or pork topped on it. In that case one needs to have a fork obviously. If you are having a noodle soup then you can have it with the help of chopsticks too. One can see the influence of Chinese, Indian and Japanese styles in Thailand food culture.
If we take a look at Thailand food menu we will find that some of the dishes are really tempting and delicious:
o Titbits: Hors d'oeuvre and snacks like rolls, puffed rice cake, satay etc.
o Dips: Made from chilies, garlic, lime juice, fish sauce etc
o Curries: The ingredients in Thai curries are powdered dried spices and fresh herbs.
o Salad: The Thai salads are normally sour, salty and sweet which are topped by different kind of meat textures.
o Desserts: No Thai dish is complete without sweet dishes. The Thai people like to take something very sweet after a spicy treat.
o Soups: Soup is the main dish when accompanied with rice is preferred to be taken by Thai people. One can find the quality of herbs and spices used in the soups.
Thai people are usually fond of eating rice with their meal and therefore whenever you stay with a Thai family, then be very cautious because you might end up putting on too much weight. Tastes of Thai Food can be amended to suit individual desire. All those who have eaten exotic Thai Food will in no way fail to order them again whenever their preferred dish is available.
วันเสาร์ที่ 13 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
วันศุกร์ที่ 12 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
MIKMA WILL FIND YOUUUUU!!!!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IWbbfebhygA&hl=en
วันพฤหัสบดีที่ 11 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
World War 3 Reality
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ri6b3l1yosQ&hl=en
วันพุธที่ 10 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
The Tok-Tok Noodle Man
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJ7S8ADddOU&hl=en
วันอังคารที่ 9 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Night Shift #4.mov "Noodles Speaks"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DXB4LCK5a2o&hl=en
วันจันทร์ที่ 8 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
วันอาทิตย์ที่ 7 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Making Won-Ton Noodle Soup.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nm9M0YhV_ro&hl=en
วันเสาร์ที่ 6 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Noodles - "Camelio" Live Baignes - 23 juin 2007
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WsL7sQFtr24&hl=en
วันศุกร์ที่ 5 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Christian Women Retreat Preparations - A Recipe For Success
When Christian women retreat for a weekend of renewal, they hope to come back refreshed and rejuvenated. Unfortunately, many problems can arise before and during the retreat, which can negatively affect the impact of the retreat. However, many of these problems can be avoided and prevented. With a little forethought, the Christian women retreat can be a very positive experience. The following are 5 preparation tips to ensure a very rewarding Christian women retreat.
1. If you have small children, arrange for childcare well in advance. Sometimes a household budget does not take into account a large sum for an extended babysitter fee. If this is the case, consider bartering with another mother. You can swap childcare for a service such as housecleaning. Or, perhaps you can swap a few homemade casseroles in exchange for babysitting.
2. Prepare some meals that your family can reheat for themselves while you are at your Christian women retreat. A few great suggestions are meatloaf, mashed potatoes, spaghetti, tuna noodle casserole, a large tossed salad, and of course, cookies in the cookie jar. Be sure to also stock the refrigerator with some fresh fruit. Prepackaged snacks are a favorite for the little ones. Be sure to take a few of those snacks and some fruit, and pack them into your own suitcase, too.
3. When packing, bring along a small amount of various over-the-counter medicines. Essential medicines include pain reliever, cough medicine, cough drops, allergy medicine, antacids, and anti-diarrhea medicine. Also bring a few band aids and tissues, and don't forget the earplugs to insure your comfort.
4. Check the weather forecast for the area in which you will be staying at your particular Christian women retreat. You will want to be sure to include a jacket, a warm hat, a scarf and a pair of gloves. Sunglasses and sunscreen should also go into your bags.
5. Leave emergency phone numbers at home for your family's use. While you are at your Christian women retreat, you will want to feel at rest that preparations are in place for minor incidences that occur at home. You may want to bring a cell phone, but turn it off for portions of your weekend, checking- in only now and then.
วันพฤหัสบดีที่ 4 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
Blending With Aloha Spirit
I arrived in Honolulu after 12 hours flight and a stop of 12 hours in Seoul where I was a temporary guest at the Hyatt Regency in the outskirts of Seoul; had a Korean 'Nouvelle Cuisine' Lounge style buffet lunch in a rather minimalist environment surrounded by glass and icy cold breeze where the steam of hot noodle soups looked like warmth from heaven. The arrival at Honolulu airport was quite different and the connection with the Pacific Ocean breeze immediately captured my attention, as did the Polynesian smiles and the rhythm of life. After the encounter with the engineer who build houses on the Moon and Mars I quickly realized I was going to be away from pollution, far away from the closest mainland, away from duality: the Islands of Hawaii are a bounty-full experience of beauty, oneness with the Universe codes of respect for nature, the unseen, the underwater realms connection with the forces of the sky.
The island of Maui is where I was heading to for - as short as 7 days only - and where I was going to drive a convertible car. Planning for a standard economy car can indeed bring good surprises as this is Maui and people are just friendly and for the same fee here I was in a convertible. Kahului, the small harbor on the Pacific Ocean is nothing but a hub with an airport. Nothing else except for large department stores and a few hotels on black sand beaches. Route #36 stretches from Kahului to Hana the south eastern tip of the Island. I described the road in another note. Hana is a hamlet of a few houses, a school, a church, two General Stores built in old wood, a hotel, a community center and plenty of fields. Hana is a remote hamlet on a remote side of a southern island of the Hawaii group of islands. Hana lives by the rhythm of the Polynesian lifestyle, cool, laid back, smiling, everyone waiving at each other, by the beach, with cooler boxes to enjoy the day. Hana is beautiful: simple, surrounded by luscious vegetation, energetic Pacific Ocean, humpback whales playing in the waves, birds, horses and deep black horses. Driving along the coastline on the ocean front road is a very pleasant reconnection with simple beauties of Earth: sunshine, marine life, vegetation, and an absolute perfect weather. At night, the Milky Way pours in the sky with its dusty white clouds of galaxies and makes you wonder how close to Oneness with Universe humans can get.
I walked five miles to breathe the air and blend with the environment. On my way back, three men are standing on the grass opposite the church. They are holding card boards: Give us your prayers. Drop them in the box. Although we waived at each other and exchanged the ritual "Aloha" to mean 'Love" I walked back and decided I was going to give these men a Universal prayer item. Their pick up had a sticker " On a Mission" and as I felt on a mission too, I used the paper and pen available to write down a few words to send prayers to the Universe, drop the paper in the box and crossed the street to hold hands and pray with John, John and Ekua. Their smiles will remain in my mind' eyes for long time, their sincerity was genuine. That evening they were going to have a men prayer session at the church and all our prayers will be sent to the Universe. I looked at the sky and smiled. How many of these prayers did you receive Demigod Maui!
Café Attitude is roughly located in the Kipahulu area, close to the sea on a slope somewhere near Seven Sacred Pools. Some call the Café an ' Organic Hippies' Café / Restaurant" Opened only on Sunday when vegetarian dishes are offered in a rather laid back setting. In my 2 hours visit there, I ate Thai papaya salad on banana leaves, drank kumbochi ( fermented mushroom ), talked to young and older people happy to be on earth, and was entertained by an opera singer, a native singer, and a folk song writer, when we left, the Milky Way greeted us on our way back to the pick-up!
The day of my departure arrived and my decision to drive along the slope of the Halaekala dormant volcano was as good as the decision to come to Hana to attend the Reiki retreat and Karuna Certification. Rather than going back the same way I came - something I hardly do in my life - I decided to drive along the lava fields and through the central road. Hardly anyone does that as [few people actually like to go out of the beaten tracks] and I was glad to be welcomed by an empty road winding on cliffs along a beautiful and powerful pacific ocean. People say Maui Island is still young, and the lava field still can give birth to large amount of vegetation. I found it beautiful just as it is and with a peculiar energy: a strong magnetism of closeness between the sea and the sky. I hardly have experienced such a connection on a mundane reality. Mountains by the sea, volcanoes by the sea, fire and water dancing together with the gods of the sky: a unique blending.
As I stopped by the Tedeschi Winery and Ulupakuala Ranch Store I knew I had reached the end of the lonely road under the sun and the convertible was covered with reddish dust. I ignored the heavy wine tasting and only had tiny sip of Raspberry Wine, preferring to head to Makawao, a small village I was told which is a concentration of new age shops.
As I stopped n Makawao and was intuitively directed to the only shop displaying several beautiful Selenite crystals, I realized my trip to the "end of the island's world" had come to an end, at least temporarily.
As I walked through the Maui Beach Hotel at 5.45 this morning, Scotty the hotel -airport shuttle driver waived at me: Hey Isabella Aloha, you flying away already?!" How was your trip? Good, you enjoyed it. Aloha. Come back soon, Mahalo"
And here I was driving back to the rental company and checking-in to Honolulu, Seoul and Bangkok.
All happens with a smile, a gentle turn of the body, a good vibes and a sea breeze which has accompanied me since I landed in Honolulu. The far too short trip to Maui was a recollection of earlier footsteps in the Southern Pacific. The wooden houses, the laid back friendly attitude, the respect for nature, the closeness with the immensity of the Pacific Ocean, the marine life, the women and men, the children, and churches.
As my wishes are floating in the sky under the control of Maui's will, I know I stretched some limits in my connection to the Universe. I lived the presence. Here and now. And got a message from it.
It all started with an encounter of a man building house on the moon, it ended up with prayers to Universe. Let the Earth wishes be heard and let Polynesia's wisdom spread the message of unconditional love to the waves of Lemurio!
Aloha Mahalo, Definitely a place to come back and blend!
How on Earth would one want to leave such a place?
Aloha and Mahalo
Getting Kids to Eat Vegetables
Have you ever made peas and carrots for dinner and put them on your child's plate? If you have, then you now know the many ways children will hide these green and orange pieces from their plates. They will lose them on the floor. They will feed them to the dog. They will hide them in their napkin. They will scoot them under another item on their plate. Kids will try just about anything to not eat the peas and carrots sitting in front of them.
Take those same veggies and add them to fried rice or to fettuccine alfredo and all of a sudden kids gobble them down.
We love dips in my house. I make spinach dip, artichoke dip, broccoli dip and a cauliflower dip. Here are a few recipes for dips that my kids have enjoyed over the years:
Cauliflower Dip
1/2 head cauliflower
1 green onion with top, chopped into 1 inch pieces
3 tablespoons sour cream (you can also use yogurt or mayonnaise)
2 tablespoons ranch dressing mix (powder)
Break cauliflower into florets, for cooking. In medium saucepan, bring about 1 1/2 inches of water to a boil. Add cauliflower, cover and simmer until tender, about 15 minutes. Run under cold water to stop the cooking; drain well.
In a food processor, puree cauliflower and green onion until smooth. Add the sour cream and dressing mix. Process 1 minute. Put into a serving dish and chill before serving.
Spinach Dip
1 package frozen spinach, thawed, drained and squeezed
1/2 cup chopped parsley or parsley flakes
1/2 cup green onion, chopped
1/2 teaspoon dill seed
1 teaspoon seasoned salt
1 cup mayonnaise
1 cup sour cream
2 tablespoons lemon juice
Mix all ingredients and chill overnight so flavors can blend.
Note: I use both light sour cream and light mayonnaise and it's still delicious.
And finally, a very simple artichoke dip:
Artichoke Dip
8 ounces shredded mozzarella cheese
8 ounces shredded Monterey Jack
1/2 cup mayonnaise
1 can artichoke hearts, drained
Cut artichoke hearts into small pieces. Mix all ingredients together. Bake at 350 degrees, about 25 minutes until melted and lightly browned.
Another favorite way to help kids eat vegetables is to put the vegetables into a marinara sauce. Cut the vegetables up fairly small. They will add a wonderful flavor to the sauce and the sauce will be nutritious for the kids. The sauce can go over any type of noodle. It can also be poured over cooked fish or chicken.
My final suggestion is to start a vegetable garden. Kids love to eat what they themselves have grown. When the child has helped water, weed and cultivate the garden, it is so much fun for them to pick the vegetables and then eat them. They are so proud to eat their own work.
These are just a few alternative to peas and carrots on a plate.
วันพุธที่ 3 มีนาคม พ.ศ. 2553
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Temecula Restaurants - Satisfy Your Need to Eat
Locating decent Temecula restaurants are both easy and tricky at the same time. While there are plenty of delicious options to consider, you'll face delightful difficulty settling on the perfect match. Some people may start out the day with a taste for Mexican, but then pass by the Temecula Peruvian restaurant called Lucho's and decide to explore the Ceviche de Pescado (marinated fish in spicy lemon juice).
Lively Caribbean delights, addicting French pastries, tantalizing Thai cuisine and much more represent just some of the possibilities you will encounter when looking for Temecula restaurants to explore. What's even better about dining in Temecula is that each experience is fresh and accompanied by the soothing blue skies and the excellent temperatures of Southern California weather.
Aiyara Thai Cuisine (41533 Margarita Rd, Suite M102): During the mid-day, why not stop by this Temecula restaurant to enjoy tasty lunch specials, including Gra-Praw (minced garlic, fresh chili, basil leaves, bell peppers, and bamboo shoots) or other selections, such as Veggie Delight, Red Curry, and coconut curry dishes? Dine on appetizers called Naked Wings, Angel Wings, and Lady Fingers. Salads with shrimp, calamari, and chicken may accompany any entrée, such as Drunken Noodles, perfect for someone with a spicy palate. The decor at the restaurant is very tastefully done and is excellent for a wonderful evening out.
Vallée d' Brume (Bell Vilaggio Shopping Center, 41413 Margarita Rd, Suite K101): The sweet scent of pastries combined with a selection of gourmet French cuisine hits the air at this upscale eatery. Artisan breads and pastries are the tip of the iceberg when it comes to what the pastry chefs can accomplish. Their reputation for creating the most beautiful wedding cakes in town has surpassed all others. At this Temecula restaurant, the lunch menu is decorated with a Spicy Chicken Salad and Salami & Brie, while dinner entrees include Fish du Jour and Vallee Mignon. Special event catering is also offered through the restaurant. To see what's cooking up at Valee d' Brume check out Best-Temecula-Guide.com
Lucho's Peruvian Restaurant (Rancho Temecula Town Center, 39650 Winchester Road, #3): With an inviting décor that captures your senses from the very start, Lucho's places you in just the right state of mind to enjoy an assortment of delicious yet healthy Peruvian pleasures. A sample meal at this popular Temecula restaurant may include boiled potatoes in a spicy cheese sauce for an appetizer, Milanesa (breaded chicken or beef - a House Specialty), purple Peruvian corn dessert (Mazamorra Morada), and a glass of Inca Kola (Peruvian soda). Find any answers to questions you may have or simply browse at Best-Temecula-Guide.com
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